Surviving language school. Is that really all we want?
You may not have experienced life on a short-term move before. If you have then you will understand when I say that a short-term relocation comes with lots of conflicted feelings about how much to become involved. I think it’s safe to say that a person’s quality of life is fairly closely tied to their social network. I’m not talking about Facebook either. If a person has good friends then they will likely enjoy their life much more than if they don’t. On a short-term relocation, like spending a year at language school, you are far away from all your other friends. Yet you still need that social interaction.
So do you develop relationships where you are? What happens at the end of the year? Will you leave them all and forget them? Will you try to maintain the relationship after you have moved on?
It’s hard to know what to do. Joy and I are feeling that pressure these days. We’ve left home and friends behind to come to Indonesia. We have neighbors and people we interact with on a daily basis. But how close should we let them get? If we let them come to close, what happens when they leave? Each day that passes marks another moment gone in the all to short time left here in school, yet each of those same days is one more deeper experience with friends. We bond closer and closer, only to see the pain of separation coming more quickly.
And don’t get me started on church.The cost of friendship is steep, the cost of ministry, of really caring about people is even steeper.
I’ve had major moves in my life every year or so for the last 6 years. I think I can speak from experience, it’s better to have loved and lost then to never have loved at all.